Is it ok for your BF to post on singles websites?
August 3rd, 2009Made In Alberta asked:
I’ve been w/ my b/f for 4 years now and i saw in the history list that he registered and posted his profile on singles websites. I confronted him about it and he said he just wanted to see the response he’d get. Is this ok or do i have a right to be upset?
to sdbiologist: we share a computer and i use the history frequently. don’t think the wrong thing, i wasn’t snooping.
I’ve been w/ my b/f for 4 years now and i saw in the history list that he registered and posted his profile on singles websites. I confronted him about it and he said he just wanted to see the response he’d get. Is this ok or do i have a right to be upset?
to sdbiologist: we share a computer and i use the history frequently. don’t think the wrong thing, i wasn’t snooping.
August 5th, 2009 at 6:44 am
Run, BabyGirl, Run!
August 6th, 2009 at 6:38 am
You have a right to be upset. If he is with you, he should be with you, not looking around at other options.
If my boyfriend did that we would have a long talk.
August 9th, 2009 at 1:00 pm
Sounds like he’s looking to me. No I don’t think it’s okay.
August 10th, 2009 at 11:56 pm
dont become upset just yet, my husband emails me porn links because he gets bored at work and he has a lap top he can carry there. boredom can make people do dumb things. but do keep an eye on him. a close eye. if you are suspicious, get a friend to pose as a sexy stranger online and see if hes willing to say things to her as he would you, and see if he steps out of bounds. and if so, then yes, you can be worried.
August 11th, 2009 at 11:21 am
you have a right to be upset…he isn’t just ’seeing what response’ he’d get, he’s trolling for other girls dump him you deserve better
August 12th, 2009 at 10:43 pm
I think I would get a little nervous about the relationship.
August 13th, 2009 at 9:18 am
Why are you snooping around on his computer? This shows that you don’t trust him. Luckily, this proved to be a fortunate mistake. Don’t date people you can’t trust.
August 15th, 2009 at 2:25 am
I would be upset If my boyfriend did that. 4 years is a long time for him to be just mucking around to see what kind of responses he will get. Tell him you want him to take his name off as you don’t find it amusing and are insulted that he needs to seek attention from single women.
Good luck to you sweetie and I hope he gets his act together.
August 17th, 2009 at 1:14 pm
You have every right to be upset! Obvious he’s looking for more than to just see what responses he can get. Get out while you can! Or, if you really want to be a vindictive bitch, go ‘undercover’ and see what he’s really up to.
August 18th, 2009 at 9:25 pm
Kick him out or get out. I tell you this because if he is doing this four years into the relationship, he is not thinking about marriage. Sorry, but as a guy I’ve gotta tell you he just isn’t that into you. Tough luck.
August 22nd, 2009 at 2:18 am
No. It’s NOT okay unless you two have an open relationship. I’m guessing that’s not the case and, therefore, you have a boyfriend who will cheat on you.
August 23rd, 2009 at 4:41 pm
No, it is not OK. Especially if you told him it bothers you and he does it anyway. This is a fundamental disrespect for your feelings. If he is not willing to provide you that security, you should leave. How can he think that it is OK? How can you doubt that you have a right to be upset? He is just playing you, girl. Even if he is just looking to see what response he would get, it opens up the temptation. People get themselves in bigger trouble with less temptation than that, believe me. Think about what your priorities are. You can always do better than him.
August 25th, 2009 at 6:35 am
Relationships are negotiated. If YOU think you have a right to be upset, you have a right to be upset. If it were me, I’d be mighty upset and wouldn’t believe for a minute his crap about wanting to see the response. That smells to high, high heaven.