What is a good age range for a singles dating group?
August 11th, 2009Lady G asked:
I am starting a singles group for diverse professionals in my area, and I got a request to join from a 45 year old, but I think he’s too old for the group and don’t know if I’m being reasonable or if it is just my own personal standards I’m applying to the whole group. I want this to be a group of peers… educated, culturally diverse, young professionals seeking the same in a partner. I am 25 and I would not date a 45 year old so I feel like accepting a 45 will change the dynamic of the group and scare some younger people away. I am not saying 45 is OLD, just a little outside of the young singles dating range… I’m trying to come up with an age range to use as a standard. I feel like between 25 and 35 is good, maybe 23 and 37 as a max, but I need some input because I am not sure.
I am starting a singles group for diverse professionals in my area, and I got a request to join from a 45 year old, but I think he’s too old for the group and don’t know if I’m being reasonable or if it is just my own personal standards I’m applying to the whole group. I want this to be a group of peers… educated, culturally diverse, young professionals seeking the same in a partner. I am 25 and I would not date a 45 year old so I feel like accepting a 45 will change the dynamic of the group and scare some younger people away. I am not saying 45 is OLD, just a little outside of the young singles dating range… I’m trying to come up with an age range to use as a standard. I feel like between 25 and 35 is good, maybe 23 and 37 as a max, but I need some input because I am not sure.
August 13th, 2009 at 2:42 am
20-35 is perfect.
August 14th, 2009 at 10:38 am
I think your age range is definitely appropriate. I agree that there has to be some boundaries, and as a 30 year old, I wouldn’t want a 45 year old in this group either. I went to a speed dating thing and a lot of the younger crowd didn’t participate because they saw some older people in the group and were turned off to the idea. There may be some people that are into that, but would they really be part of a group that has an age range of 25-35? Probably not. I think you are right in setting the limit, and you shouldn’t feel bad about it.
August 16th, 2009 at 11:43 am
I find that each decade brings its own unique experiences and maturity levels. You might want to put pen to paper and look at what exactly the purpose of the group is and goals you hope to achieve, then write out a list of what each age group can contribute. I bet the answer will be clear. Good luck.