Do gay female singles or couples use sperm donors?
September 21st, 2009Turkey Lurkey asked:
When it comes to becoming parents in the gay community do woman opt to use sperm donors rather than adoption…..whether it be private, agency or foster care?
When it comes to becoming parents in the gay community do woman opt to use sperm donors rather than adoption…..whether it be private, agency or foster care?
September 23rd, 2009 at 12:35 pm
Some do, sure. So do some heterosexuals, whether singles or couples.
They certainly don’t ALL. Gay/lesbian people don’t have a hive mind where they all make the same decisions.
September 23rd, 2009 at 6:27 pm
i believe Melissa Etheridge did a whole story in Rolling Stone about how she and her then partner used a famous sperm donor. It reall depends on the person. Rosie O Donnell adopted.
September 23rd, 2009 at 11:47 pm
Sure.
Rosie adopted three kids. However, she has talked about how her partner, Kellie, used a turkey baster filled with sperm to impregnate herself.
September 25th, 2009 at 11:01 pm
I know some that have used spem donors (both through sperm banks and known donors), and also some that have adopted. I even know some that got pregnant the, um, “old fashioned” way. And some are co-parenting with the biological father or a gay male couple. Most lesbian couples I know have chosen to have one of them be a biological parent to their child(ren). As far as I know and remember, the ones that adopted did so for the same reasons heterosexual couples often do — problems with infertility or pregnancy losses. I think the desire to pass on your genes and give birth to your children probably transcends gender preference.
ETA: @MonkeyKitty “hive mind” — now that’s funny! Thanks for the laugh!
September 27th, 2009 at 6:24 pm
adopt me lol jk
yeah it can be private, agency or foster care
September 28th, 2009 at 11:19 pm
I haven’t asked any details, but my direct supervisor just had a baby a couple weeks ago, and she is a lesbian. I don’t know how her child was conceived. I have a coworker who is also a lesbian, and we have talked extensively about adoption through foster care. She and her significant other are planning to start the process. I have another coworker who is apparently a lesbian (I’ve never asked, but my husband - who has worked with her for 7 years at her other job and knows her better than I - says she is gay) and has opted to not have children. She has a rad dog, though. He’s a therapy dog. And she has worked with kids for around 25 years now. That’s certainly one effective way to get your kid fix.
I don’t know the stats, but I’m with monkeykitty here. Seems there is no hive mind.