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Ann Marier asked:


Many times when a girl is looking for a dating tip, there tends to be many ways to find them, but they lead to general tips that don’t result in specific dating tips for a girl. Sure, general dating tips can help anyone who reads them but for specific tips that help a particular gender or preference, they can be few and far between. If you′re looking for dating tips for a girl, look no further and read on!

The first thing you should know when looking into dating tips for a girl, is to pick and choose carefully. Because everyone is different, not every tip will work well for everyone. So be sure that you use the tips that you’re comfortable with, don’t forget to be true to who you really are, and you’re sure to be successful!

Tip #1

Dating tips for girls will usually include wearing sexy clothing and basically “putting yourself out there”. You won′t find these tips in this article. The first tip to be shared with you is to be yourself! Many women think that they can′t be themselves when they first meet a man for one reason or another.

The bottom line is, if he doesn’t like you for you, the relationship isn’t going to get very far because eventually your true colors will shine through, it’s human nature! So, be yourself and stay confident. You’ll meet plenty of men who love your personality and the kind of person you are.

Tip #2

Another great dating tip for girls is to make sure you don’t air your dirty laundry on the first date. Let’s face it, we all have things going on in our lives that aren’t the most attractive to the opposite sex. Now, this isn’t to say that you should keep this stuff hidden as long as possible, but you surely shouldn’t tell him all about it the first time you spend time together. Give him a chance to get to know you, and vice versa.

A door will open after a few dates that will allow you the chance to start giving him information he should know that may affect him in the long run. By the time these conversations come about, you’ll already be in a relationship and it will be easier for him to understand the things you’re telling him without being scared off.

Tip #3

Finally, another important dating tip for girls is to not come off as desperate! This doesn′t mean that you′re falling all over the men that you meet or letting them know how much you need to find a date, this means to avoid doing things like waiting by the phone for his call and paying for the date just because he asks.

These small things that you may think are simply thoughtful because you like him, may lead him to believe you′re willing to do whatever it takes to make him happy and to snag him for yourself. This leads to one of two things; he′ll either get turned off and stop calling, or he′ll decide that it’s worth taking advantage of you, neither of which you want.

Neil Lemons asked:


One of the hardest, but most important, attraction tools to initiate and maintain after meeting a potential mate or sex partner is to pique her interest, arouse her passion, and raise her curiosity levels early on. You only get small amount of time before you’re making a touchdown in the friend zone on the team you don’t want to be playing on. Avoid this draft.

You want to get her thinking you are a smart, witty, sensual, and a potential dating material early on. Because women are always looking for the hidden meaning, or “what is he really saying,” and enjoy dissecting your words, you will have a great advantage over many other men if you can maintain an interesting and engaging blog and can get her to start reading soon after she meets you.

It’s like creating your own real-time, updatable, dating site profile that she comes back to again and again, feening and hungry for knowledge about you to sink her teeth into and wrap her overanalyzing brain around.

I won’t go into how to get a blog, there are tons of user-friendly platforms out there (Blogger, Livejournal, WordPress), and you can figure it out. After you get a blog, there are at least four strategies to help you get started building her info-obsession and I will lay them out for you, but first I want to give you a little background.

My Own Obsession Seeding Blog Experience-

I started blogging my junior year in college around late 2001, way before blogging was even cool. I soon found out the unspoken rules, drama, as well as accidentally discovered some unique advantages and relationship-jump starter benefits I would have never had imagined possible by putting a few paragraphs online.

I have to admit, I probably scored at least three long-term girlfriends, 20 acquaintances/friends, and a dozen dates over a four year period purely from bloggin′ it up. I kept them reading months, even years, after the relationship was over. I know for a fact these girls would continue to read my blog if I updated often enough. I am sure they eventually trailed off after not updating for months. My words echoed in their skulls and yours can too with the proper training and advice.

First, you must understand I never did anything to blatantly get a reaction (ok maybe a couple of times). That is the beauty of it: A blog is supposed to be your true feelings, thoughts, and stories. Similar to a newspaper, if it’s put in print (even digital print), it must be true and a woman can not argue with that logic when it comes to feelings because it is there own. Feelings should be trusted as truth indicators for which you can not be blamed.

Now, the Four Strategies:

1. The Unveiling - Keep it Subtle

After you’ve gone on one date, regardless of where you met her, mention that you have a blog that you keep up with that your friends read. She′ll think it is nice that you considered her a friend, then send her the address. Now that you have baited your hook, take the next step, but do this oh so carefully. She she is mildly interested, she will then use the blog to gain a “deeper insight” to who you are the days following the date.

2. Me, Me, Meeeeee — Mention Her Once & She will be Hooked

People can not resist seeing their own name in print, as well as reading your thoughts and opinions about them. Casually mention her name in a post without any strong feelings toward or against her for the most effect. Psychological experiments prove variable interval reinforcement schedules (Google it) are the strongest for predicting consistent behavior.

She’ll come back over and over, wondering when is the next time you will write about her and possibly expose how you really feel.

3. Post about Past Dates & Dating Other Women

This may seem counter-intuitive, but it sucks her in like a line of coke does to Courtney Love. This works especially well, if they are dates from the past, but if you are seeing other people simultaneously talk about those dates too. Once she has been hooked by you mentioning her name, she is sure to think you may have talked about other dates with other women in past posts as she is clicking “previous″ until her pointer finger is sore. It helps even more if you post the girls′ pictures in the entry.

Dummy Disclaimer

Only post the girl’s picture when each relationship has actually ended, or it might freak the subject of the post out slightly. Always take a picture down, if any past dating partners request.

End Disclaimer

Past dates will mostly likely never ask because, even if you do post it too early, the immediate EX won’t want to admit she is still reading your blog.

If you don’t have a lot of dates to write about, write about how some girl flirted with you or how you had a great time with your friends. If you can’t be seen as a mysterious writer guy that is highly sought after, you can at least be considered a fun guy that people like and has a life of his own without her. This is highly attractive as well. That is a subject for another dating tip article.

4. Go Deep, but Not too Deep

It is good to be thought-provoking and philosophical in your entries sometimes, but don’t overdo it. This should be obvious, but don’t whine, give self-pity, or share your deep-seeded childhood feelings and stories about how your uncle touched you. This isn’t therapy, it’s entertainment for yourself, others and to help you get that next date. Good luck!

Ann Marier asked:


Every woman is different, with different preferences, so what wins one girl’s heart may leave another unsatisfied. However, there are a few things that hold true for the vast majority if there were a set of commandment-like dating tips for men, these would be among them

Call Her

Possibly of the oft repeated dating tips for men, offered by other men, is to wait a certain number of days after a first date to call a woman. Apparently this is based on the premise that calling sooner will make a man seem too eager. Where men got the idea that women are turned off by men who are eager to talk to them is a mystery.

If a woman doesn’t hear from a man within a few days of their date, she’s likely to get anxious and uncomfortable about whether or not the man is interested in her. This does not add excitement it simply adds unneeded tension to a situation already rife with anxiety to begin with.

Offer to Pay the Check

In the age of social equality and splitting the check, it has almost come to be taken for granted that both parties will pay their own way on a date. While this is fair and politically correct, it’s not very romantic. Some dating tips for men and women suggest that whoever initiates the date should pay, however, that could lead to a potentially awkward situation if one party incorrectly assumes that the other is paying. Although your date may decline your offer to cover the whole bill, she will be grateful for your offer as it shows respect for her.

Maintain Friendships with Women

Do not ask men for dating tips women are the experts on their own gender. Having strong platonic ties to the female population offers an unmatched opportunity for insight into what they like, what they go through, and how to relate to them. The stereotype that a man who grows up with a lot of sisters has better luck with women is partly true for this reason.

He is likely to have greater respect for women, as he imagines how he would want his own sisters to be treated. Female friends can offer an unlimited supply of dating tips for men in their lives because they genuinely want their male friends to be happy and, therefore, generally offer useful advice.

Gabby Laine asked:


There are things in our life that we may feel pressured to confess to a potential date. Gabby Love offers key tips on the items to keep to yourself. There are just times and certain items to just keep quiet on.

A. Past Romantic Encounters and Loves

This is nothing but a buzz kill. Who really cares concerning your romantic history? Notice the key word here…history. If you are on a date you are exploring a new adventure. This is a fresh start. Just keep your mouth shut.

B. Confessing past infidelity

Are you crazy? Never admit to a complete stranger something like this. Infidelity demonstrates lack of trust and discipline by yourself to another. You now have a clean slate. If you aren’t over mentally of committing a past infidelity then confess to your shrink or priest, not to your date….Hell,we all got problems without being loaded down with someone else’s problems.

C. Keep your sexual stories to yourself…

Yeah, around your friends they may be wild stories but to a complete stranger could be a complete “turn off”. Your bedroom should be like Vegas…”What happens in your bedroom… stays in your bedroom”. It’s your history…move on.

D. Money

If you have money keep it to yourself and if you don′t have money …keep it to yourself. You are just on a date to have fun and get to know the person you are with. Relax…

E. Personal inferiority problems

Hey, this is a date not your shrink. They aren′t around you to fix you mentally. If I could count the dates I’ve been on where my date talks about some mental hurdle they are trying to get over and how they are trying to work on it. If this is you, either don′t date until you get your act together or just shut up about your problems.

The above are just a few key points that can be a definite “buzz kill″ in a conversation with your date. Remember, your date could be the start to a new beginning.