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Neil Lemons asked:


One of the hardest, but most important, attraction tools to initiate and maintain after meeting a potential mate or sex partner is to pique her interest, arouse her passion, and raise her curiosity levels early on. You only get small amount of time before you′re making a touchdown in the friend zone on the team you don′t want to be playing on. Avoid this draft.

You want to get her thinking you are a smart, witty, sensual, and a potential dating material early on. Because women are always looking for the hidden meaning, or “what is he really saying,” and enjoy dissecting your words, you will have a great advantage over many other men if you can maintain an interesting and engaging blog and can get her to start reading soon after she meets you.

It’s like creating your own real-time, updatable, dating site profile that she comes back to again and again, feening and hungry for knowledge about you to sink her teeth into and wrap her overanalyzing brain around.

I won’t go into how to get a blog, there are tons of user-friendly platforms out there (Blogger, Livejournal, WordPress), and you can figure it out. After you get a blog, there are at least four strategies to help you get started building her info-obsession and I will lay them out for you, but first I want to give you a little background.

My Own Obsession Seeding Blog Experience-

I started blogging my junior year in college around late 2001, way before blogging was even cool. I soon found out the unspoken rules, drama, as well as accidentally discovered some unique advantages and relationship-jump starter benefits I would have never had imagined possible by putting a few paragraphs online.

I have to admit, I probably scored at least three long-term girlfriends, 20 acquaintances/friends, and a dozen dates over a four year period purely from bloggin’ it up. I kept them reading months, even years, after the relationship was over. I know for a fact these girls would continue to read my blog if I updated often enough. I am sure they eventually trailed off after not updating for months. My words echoed in their skulls and yours can too with the proper training and advice.

First, you must understand I never did anything to blatantly get a reaction (ok maybe a couple of times). That is the beauty of it: A blog is supposed to be your true feelings, thoughts, and stories. Similar to a newspaper, if it’s put in print (even digital print), it must be true and a woman can not argue with that logic when it comes to feelings because it is there own. Feelings should be trusted as truth indicators for which you can not be blamed.

Now, the Four Strategies:

1. The Unveiling - Keep it Subtle

After you’ve gone on one date, regardless of where you met her, mention that you have a blog that you keep up with that your friends read. She′ll think it is nice that you considered her a friend, then send her the address. Now that you have baited your hook, take the next step, but do this oh so carefully. She she is mildly interested, she will then use the blog to gain a “deeper insight” to who you are the days following the date.

2. Me, Me, Meeeeee — Mention Her Once & She will be Hooked

People can not resist seeing their own name in print, as well as reading your thoughts and opinions about them. Casually mention her name in a post without any strong feelings toward or against her for the most effect. Psychological experiments prove variable interval reinforcement schedules (Google it) are the strongest for predicting consistent behavior.

She’ll come back over and over, wondering when is the next time you will write about her and possibly expose how you really feel.

3. Post about Past Dates & Dating Other Women

This may seem counter-intuitive, but it sucks her in like a line of coke does to Courtney Love. This works especially well, if they are dates from the past, but if you are seeing other people simultaneously talk about those dates too. Once she has been hooked by you mentioning her name, she is sure to think you may have talked about other dates with other women in past posts as she is clicking “previous” until her pointer finger is sore. It helps even more if you post the girls’ pictures in the entry.

Dummy Disclaimer

Only post the girl’s picture when each relationship has actually ended, or it might freak the subject of the post out slightly. Always take a picture down, if any past dating partners request.

End Disclaimer

Past dates will mostly likely never ask because, even if you do post it too early, the immediate EX won’t want to admit she is still reading your blog.

If you don’t have a lot of dates to write about, write about how some girl flirted with you or how you had a great time with your friends. If you can’t be seen as a mysterious writer guy that is highly sought after, you can at least be considered a fun guy that people like and has a life of his own without her. This is highly attractive as well. That is a subject for another dating tip article.

4. Go Deep, but Not too Deep

It is good to be thought-provoking and philosophical in your entries sometimes, but don’t overdo it. This should be obvious, but don’t whine, give self-pity, or share your deep-seeded childhood feelings and stories about how your uncle touched you. This isn’t therapy, it’s entertainment for yourself, others and to help you get that next date. Good luck!

Brett Smith asked:


Silverchair’s Daniel Johns has done it. A young David Bowie perfected it. Adam Ant overdid it. The whole make-up thing, that is. Rock stars have always strutted and preened.

But peacocking – as it’s been dubbed by Mystery, the controversial host of the US reality TV show The Pick Up Artist – is spreading to the mere mortals in the male population.

Mystery, who has bright red lips tattooed on his neck, heavy black kohl, flouncy white shirts and old-style aviation goggles, explains his look as a way of seducing and ultimately, sleeping with the women he dates.

On his show, Mystery schools bookish, date-less blokes in the art of picking up – starting with dyeing their hair and dressing them in fur jackets and floppy Great Gatsby hats.

The Queer Eye for the Straight Guy team gave a light spit and polish – usually involving a bottle of moisturiser – to men who were looking either to impress on a first date or revive a flagging relationship. Mystery, on the other hand, is all about helping his protégés bed women on the first date.

‘It’s a mating jungle out there’ is his message, and the only way to win is to don plumage brighter and crazier than all the others.

But does it really work? Not surprisingly, peacocking has its fair share of critics,

“If you’re not congruent with your look, what you wear will signal insecurity and a need for attention/validation, which will make women avoid you like the plague,” says one male blogger on Seductionlair.com.

“Nothing’s worse than getting a girl and then having her wonder why you have so many articles of female clothing in your closet,” he adds.

Amy, a 24-year-old flight attendant, said that while a peacock might be the first man to catch her eye at a party – and she wouldn’t rule out sleeping with one – ultimately the idea of fighting over the bathroom mirror or her make-up bag didn’t turn her on.

Xanthe, a 29-year-old chef, said: “My first serious date wore black nail polish, eyeliner and a Mohawk. He was masculine in every other way, but it was the combination of his muscular body and deep sexy voice with those feminine touches that made him irresistible to me. Now when I date someone I do wonder if they’re the kind of guy I can picture myself walking down the aisle with. Or pushing a baby stroller without worrying about chipping their nail polish.”

So go for it guys. If you’re a rock star, a Peter Pan, or if you’re just after a casual date or a one-night stand, then feather up. But if it’s a lasting relationship you’re after, hold off on the eye shadow and leave the lip gloss to the girls.

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Daryl Campbell asked:


after survey women complain that men do not listen. If that were the only complaint then maybe there would not be so many surveys. However there is one other grievance that takes its place right along side poor to non existent listening skills. While some women may be able to deal with lack of paying attention, the arrogance that accompanies it is a little too much for many of them to handle. “He’s a legend in his own mind and God’s gift to women” or so the song goes. Unfortunately in countless dating situations, it is a reality. Arrogance is a major turnoff to women. It’s not that they want to date someone with the confidence level of a frightened baby mouse but it is no fun going out with a person who conveys in every way they are too good for you. This comes across in a few ways: 1. Body Language You are sitting there like one of two people. The king of Siam and it is indeed an honor for your date to be worthy enough to sit in your presence. Or the coolest guy in the hemisphere. If your date has a problem with that well that’s her problem. You are too cool to lose your cool. 2. Flash The Cash You got a great job, a good business or both. You naturally want to impress your date but opening your wallet every few minutes or talking about how great the money situation is for you is not going to do it; particularly when you start lauding it over them. Being glad about your good fortune is one thing, using it as a weapon against your date is another thing entirely. 3. You Know What You Know Okay there are some things that you understand very well. You’ve studied them and have a great passion for certain subjects. So how dare your date think that she can talk on your level? She should just pipe down and listen as you wax magnificently on whatever it is that you know. When she does attempt to enter the conversation, you let her know verbally or thru body language that her opinion is not welcome. Be quiet and listen to the maestro. That’s you. 4. You Know What They Know Your date has several fields of expertise that she articulates quite well. But your ego just won’t let you accept the fact that someone may know more than you. So you wade into the deep end of the pool and attempt to give her your expert opinion on subjects you know nothing about. After a mere five seconds it becomes painfully clear you do not have a clue as to what you are talking about but that does not stop you. No doubt you are not paying attention to your date who at this point is looking at you with a combination of pity, ridicule and anger. 5. Busy Eyes Your date is trying to make a point and for the most part you have been demonstrating some exemplary listening skills. That is until the hottie in the clinging black dress walked by. Besides staring at her with your mouth wide open, you then followed her with your eyes all the way back to her table. You thought you were being slick about it, but you weren’t. As a matter of fact you didn’t even care. Hey it’s not like you and your date are married or engaged right? And not giving your date that respect will ensure you do not get married, engaged or another date with her. You are supposed to feel good about yourself. It is also important that you guard against others trying to bring you down because they do not feel so good about themselves. That does not mean you exaggerate your importance and start building a monument to yourself during the date. Relax and stay confident but also understand a little humility every now and then doesn’t hurt either.

John Alanis asked:


As the dating tips master who has helped millions of men date sexy women no matter their looks, age or income, I’ve heard all of the stories. I hear it over and over—”It was going so great, and then she disappeared on me… why? What happened? We were having such a great time together. I’m tired of this happening. I want to date sexy women, but I want them to stick around. Do you have any dating tips for me?”

Every time a guy tells me this, I discover he’s making the exact same dating mistakes that most guys do. These dating mistakes can kill your chances of successfully dating sexy women.

Here Are My Top 5 Dating Tips to Help You

Skyrocket Your Success with Sexy Women:

Dating tip #1: Don’t date. Yes, you heard me right. I said don’t date. Think about a traditional “date.” It’s full of pressure, awkwardness, evaluation and it just plain sucks. What do you do on a traditional date? Dinner, movie, kiss goodnight, and then she doesn’t return your calls. Trust me, it’s much better (and cheaper) to meet for coffee. It’s fun and relaxed with none of the normal dating expectations.

Dating tip #2: The less you do and say, the more she’s attracted to you. Most guys try to impress sexy women. Sexy women have heard it all before. But, if you ask her about herself, shut up and listen, and display a SMALL degree of interest, she’ll begin to wonder why you’re not slobbering all over her. She’ll want to discover more. Now you’re a challenge, and sexy women love challenging guys.

Dating tip #3: Be a gentleman but also be a “naughty little boy.” Remember the “class clown” in elementary school—the guy who was cool and funny all at the same time? When you′re talking to sexy women, make unexpected and mischievous comments. Leave them thinking, “I can’t believe he just said that… but I like it.” This shows sexy women you′re NOT impressed by their looks and you need to see more. And because this is so different from what they’re used to, they can’t help but be attracted. I cannot emphasize the importance of this dating tip.

Dating tip #4: Avoid all canned pick up lines or any type of acting. Sexy women have heard it all before. As soon as you spout one, you′re instantly what I call a JAG (just another guy). And JAG’s don’t get sexy women!

Dating tip #5: Look out for her tests. Sexy women will test you to see if you’ll stand up to them. If you can’t stand up to her, you can’t stand up for her. If she asks you to buy her things, that’s a test. It’s also a perfect opportunity to be a naughty little boy as described in dating tip #3. Say something like, “What do I look like an ATM machine? You should buy ME something, just for the privilege of spending time with me. I like sexy women who buy me things!” Say this in a playful, yet firm manner that lets her know you’re onto her. When you pass their tests, it drives sexy women wild with desire.

Obviously there are lots of other dating tips, tricks and secrets you can put to use to grab a hold of the sexy woman of your dreams and never let her go. But if you pay attention to these dating tips, you’ll be a whole lot more successful with sexy women. I guarantee it. So, go re-read all the dating tips again now and start having more fun on your dating adventures!

Johan Krost asked:


There are many dating tips for guys but not all of them are worth it when it comes to the matter of dating and women. You see there are loads of dating tips out there on the internet and other sources yet only a few of these dating tips actually help men. There are some stunning dating tips which are guaranteed to help you achieve the desired results with females fast. Read on to discover what these dating tips are and how you can use them to achieve stunning results with women…

Dating tip 1- Never act too impressed too early- This is something you must be careful about at all times. You see what normally happens is that most guys end up acting too impressed too early due to which the girl they are with loses all the attraction towards them. The reason why this happens is simply due to the fact that when the girl discovers that you want her real bad she you become an easy catch and girls are normally after guys who are some what of a challenge.

Dating tip 2- First impression is the last impression- This is one of the most important dating tips for guys. You see if you make a lousy first impression it would be extremely hard for you to make a good impression again. Once a woman discovers that you are something she doesn’t want to have there is absolutely no way she will feel attracted towards you again. Therefore keep in mind to make a great first impression.

Dating tip 3- Act as if you are something even if you are average- Most guys feel that it’s all about the looks but the fact of the matter is that looks don′t matter that much. Now you might feel that you have read before in dating tips at other places that looks do make a difference. You see the fact of the matter is that looks have very little to do when you have a strong personality. This is one of the most under looked dating tips for guys. Girls would value you more if you are confident about yourself and carry a frame of mind. Guys concentrate more on your behavior than what you look like.

Dating tip 4- Forget the outcome just have fun- Another important dating tip for guys is to forget the outcome which means not to think about whether she will like you or not. Just be in the moment and try to have some fun. You see when you forget what she might think about you, she automatically starts to like you since she will have a great time in your company because you are enjoying yourself.