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Daryl Campbell asked:


You can plan, prepare verify, check and recheck but there isw always going to be somethings in the dating game that will be overlooked.

We are all human and the easiest thing in the world sometimes is to not fully take into account the consideration of others. Small items can have great significance.

1. What Have You Been Eating?

You notice your date occasionally pulls away from you when you get a little closer. Why? You are clean and well groomed. The deodorant is effective without being overpowering so what’s the problem?

Could be the old breath thing. Bad breath can be very embarrassing as well as a major turnoff not just for that particular date but for the entire relationship. Clean and floss your teeth thoroughly, use mouthwash and carry some extra mints with you.

Moreover, pay attention to what food you consume. Anything that has been flavored too strongly can trigger bad breath. If you like zesty seasoning, you may want to pass it up this time around.

2.That’s the Stupidest Thing You’ve Ever Heard

You think the conversation is going well. It was during the beginning but now it has turned into a one person show. Every time the other person tried to give their opinion you shot them down in a not so nice way. Now you suddenly realize from their body language that this date ended about an hour ago.

Being diplomatic should always be high on your priority list when out on a date. Yes you maybe an expert on a certain subject or two but you do not have to laud it over your date. Let them have their say.

If you disagree or know for a fact the information they spouted is wrong, than you can ask questions or gently correct them. If it is just small talk and has no significance concerning your dating relationship, than sometimes it is best to just let it go.

This is not a debate or a sporting event where you must score points. Letting the other person have their say without feeling the need to “win” the conversation is an important part of diplomacy and dating.

3 Is That Your Cell Phone or Mine?

Aye Carumba. This is the new rude. Not only do you take the call (what are you thinking?) but you spend way too much time on it. You then fill your date in on the details. Think they care by now? Probably not. That one action tells them you are not taking this date seriously.

Your friends, family and acquaintances can get along with you for a little while so turn your cell phone off and concentrate on the business at hand. And truthfully if the shoe was on the other foot, you would not be happy.

Try as you might, there is no way to guarantee a perfect date. You can always look back and realize that maybe you should have said or done something different. But keep in mind to take care of the breath, make your date an equal partner in the conversation, and turn the cell phone off. Keep in mind little things mean a lot. The more you do the more your date will appreciate you.

Sacha Tarkovsky asked:


The first date can be a nerve racking experience and there is nothing worse than being with someone and not being able to keep the conversation flowing smoothly.

The dating tip below is all about making the conversation flow easily and naturally and avoiding those embarrassing pauses that can ruin a first date.

Lets look at the art of conversation on the first date

1. How never to have a pause

The easiest way is to simply ask questions that need a reply i.e you don’t get a simple yes or no!

For example, if you said in a restaurant.

“Do you like the décor?”

You may get a simple yes or no.

However, if you phrase it differently you should get a more expansive reply i.e

“ I really like the blue décor what colors do you like?”

You force more than a yes no answer and this of course helps a conversation develop.

Always if the conversation is not flowing, ask a question that needs more than a yes no response.

Topics to avoid

Generally avoid any controversial topics or questions that are to personal.

Good ones to avoid are:

Politics religion, anything of a sexual nature or topics that are topical and that have generally strong opposite views.

Only if you know your date doesn’t mind debating these and accepting an opposite point of view should you engage in them.

Good topics

You may not be the best conversational person in the world, so get some subjects you know your date is likely to have an opinion on.

Check out and learn some of the topical news stories ( particularly ones that are funny) and try and know something about your date’s favourite pastimes and interests.

If its music or fashion do a bit of research so you know something about their interests.

Also show an interest in them.

Non controversial background such as family, work etc

Compliments

Don’t go over the top with these they can make your date uncomfortable make your compliments subtle and never overtly sexual.

While conversation on the first date may seem daunting, especially if your date is nervous to - it doesn’t need to be.

Use the tips above and you will soon have a conversation flowing.

If your partner is nervous to they will appreciate your effort and that will make a great impression.

Always try and ask questions where you get more than a yes or no answer as this will help the conversation flow and soon you will both be relaxed and talking freely.