Date Singles Now

Wanchil Colin asked:


It used to be quite the laughing matter when someone was coerced into admitting that they had tried one of the various online dating services. It was viewed as, more or less, a last ditch effort, an act of desperation. I can still remember the day that I asked a friend of mine how he met his girlfriend and he said, with embarrassment, that he met her online. In recent years, however, online dating has really taken off and is becoming a very popular way to meet other singles. A combination of people being busier and the technological advances that make virtual communication easier have led to the rise in popularity of this once mocked activity. There are a lot of good things associated with online dating but there are also some dangers. I′d like to present a few tips for online dating that will help you in your quest to find Mr. Or Mrs. Right.

Be Specific

Don’t be intentionally vague when it comes to what you are looking for or who you are. The more vague you are, the more people you will get responses from that you will wish you wouldn’t get a response from. If you don’t like short guys, say so. If you are looking for someone over 40, say so. When someone is looking through the different profiles and comes across yours, make sure that you have information in there that will allow him to evaluate whether or not he is interested. “I enjoy romance and fun people″ is not going to cut it.

Be Optimistic

In doing a little research for this article I found an amazing number of profiles that said things like “I don’t really think this will work, just wanted to see what happened”, or “I’m only doing this because someone dared me to”, or, and this was my personal favorite, “I can’t find anyone to date where I live so I just figured I would try this out”. Be positive in your description of yourself. Nobody wants to go out with someone who can’t get a date anywhere else and nobody wants to feel like they are a part of something that is designed to give losers a second chance.

Be Patient

Just because you don′t get five invitations on the first day that you log on doesn′t mean that you will single for the rest of your life. Like everything else, this may take some time. Don′t rush things.

Be Classy

If you put a profile up with pictures of you half naked and striking provocative poses, you probably are not going to get responses from genuinely interested, decent people. Don’t talk about your sexual habits or fantasies. If sex between you and your partner is something that is going to happen, great, but let the details be worked out between the two of you in private, not out in public. You don’t want to attract people who are trying to prey on someone they consider “easy″.

Be Careful

Finally, be careful about what you say and do. We all know that it is not a good idea to put your social security number and mother’s maiden name up as a part of your profile. It also is not a very good idea to post things like your street address and phone number. If you meet a stranger in person you would get to know them before telling them that kind of information and it is even more important to keep that information private in an online dating setting. Remember, everything that you put on that profile is available to anybody that wants to look at it. Start slowly and build trust. Chat online, then exchange numbers. Meet in a public place quite a few times before you invite a person to your home or go to theirs. Be safe and you will be happy.

And Finally…

Have fun! Online dating is a great way to meet people with similar lifestyles and interests. You will have the opportunity to meet people that will enrich your life in so many ways. And, not if you are lucky, but if you are wise, perhaps you will meet the one person who completes you and who is completed by you. And when people ask you how you met, you can tell them with no shame whatsoever, “We met online!”

somber_pieces asked:


But don’t post any photos of themselves that are more recent?
Sooner or later, if they find someone who wants to meet them will only be disapointed when they meet the real version in person along with more milage and wear and tear, if at all their original hair and not a wig.

it isn’t fair.

Jason Roberts asked:


Here are a few tips that you can use for getting more dates through the internet.

Join a dating website.

Joining a dating website (or perhaps a peer network website) is the first step to getting a date over the internet. These websites usually require no fees to join, and you will need only about five minutes to register and get your own personal account.

You should be very careful of the dating websites that you join. Make sure that they are legitimate sites, and that quality people can be found there. It would not be a good idea to join the sleaziest sites out there - you probably won’t find very good dates that way.

Write an excellent profile. The first step to getting internet dates is to create an eye-catching, interesting profile.

Keep in mind that there are thousands - if not millions of profiles just like yours, and you must exhaust all efforts to make it a unique one.

What catches the eye of most browsers are profiles with pictures - so you might want to upload a few of your best pictures into your profile. Make sure you flash a smile or two.

Another part of your profile is describing yourself - likes, dislikes, affiliations, and what not. Again, one must be careful about what is written here, especially when it comes to personal information.

Remember that the internet is full of sexual predators, so you should be careful about giving away full names, addresses, phone numbers, and the like. You probably shouldn′t say exactly where you spend your time either. Here′s a rule of thumb: if it doesn′t need to be known by complete strangers, don′t post it on the internet for all to see.

Be at your best. This tip is intuitive. When trying to find potential partners over the internet, try to be at your personable best. If you use webcams, you might want to be dressed properly before you go online. Appearances still matter, whether in real life or not.

Talk about the other person’s interests. Over the internet, being a good conversationalist is key. One way to become an excellent conversationalist is to talk about what the other person wants to talk about - not what you want to talk about.

Listen carefully to your companion and adopt yourself to whatever topic she seems to enjoy.

Take precautions. When you finally schedule a meeting with someone, be sure to take some extra precautions. For instance, let someone know where you are going, who you are meeting, and what time you expect to be back.

If you have an idea of where you’ll be going (and you should), be sure to let someone close to you know. This will lessen the chances of anything untoward happening to you.

With this bevy of internet dating tips, you have the basics of finding love online. Be yourself, be at your best, and you shouldn′t have any trouble finding a date. After all, it’s a big world.